{"id":3277,"date":"2025-11-20T09:00:51","date_gmt":"2025-11-20T02:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/?p=3277"},"modified":"2025-11-17T09:15:13","modified_gmt":"2025-11-17T02:15:13","slug":"tinh-yeu-la-gi-7-loai-tinh-yeu-thuong-gap-trong-doi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/tinh-yeu-la-gi-7-loai-tinh-yeu-thuong-gap-trong-doi\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau L\u00e0 G\u00ec? 7 Lo\u1ea1i T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau Th\u01b0\u1eddng G\u1eb7p Trong \u0110\u1eddi"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau – hai t\u1eeb quen thu\u1ed9c nh\u01b0ng \u1ea9n ch\u1ee9a bao \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ed \u1ea9n. C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u00fang ta th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p n\u00e0y? Hay ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn gi\u1eefa \u0111am m\u00ea, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"tinh-yeu-la-gi\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c “b\u01b0\u1edbm b\u01b0\u1edbm” trong b\u1ee5ng khi g\u1eb7p ai \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111a chi\u1ec1u, t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111am m\u00ea ch\u00e1y b\u1ecfng \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00f2ng b\u00e1c \u00e1i v\u1ecb tha, t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u1ea5m \u00e1p \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh. M\u1ed7i lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau mang m\u1ed9t m\u00e0u s\u1eafc ri\u00eang, m\u1ed9t \u00fd ngh\u0129a ri\u00eang trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ai \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng trong t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean trong h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh. B\u1edfi ch\u1ec9 khi n\u1eafm v\u1eefng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1c d\u1ea1ng th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn di\u1ec7n \u0111\u00fang nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e3y c\u00f9ng kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 7 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy L\u1ea1p c\u1ed5 \u0111\u1ea1i ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb h\u00e0ng ngh\u00ecn n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc – nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nguy\u00ean gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb cho \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7 Lo\u1ea1i T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau Th\u01b0\u1eddng G\u1eb7p Trong \u0110\u1eddi<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy L\u1ea1p c\u1ed5 \u0111\u1ea1i, v\u1edbi tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00e0nh 7 d\u1ea1ng th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c nhau. M\u1ed7i lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh m\u1ed9t kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t trong tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t \u0111a d\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"cac-kieu-tinh-yeu-thuong-gap\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Vi\u1ec7c n\u1eafm v\u1eefng c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng. T\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng sai l\u1ec7ch trong t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eros \u2013 T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau \u0110am M\u00ea<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Eros, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t t\u00ean theo v\u1ecb th\u1ea7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong th\u1ea7n tho\u1ea1i Hy L\u1ea1p, l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd v\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea ch\u00e1y b\u1ecfng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m m\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 “y\u00eau” – c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c tim \u0111\u1eadp nhanh, mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u00e0 s\u1edf h\u1eefu ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"tinh-yeu\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, Eros kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c. \u0110\u00f3 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 khao kh\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00f2a quy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, l\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m say \u0111\u1eafm v\u1edbi v\u1ebb \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c h\u00fat c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. Lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u00e0 thu h\u00fat m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea7n nh\u1eadn ra l\u00e0 Eros th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng n\u1ebfu thi\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng s\u00e2u s\u1eafc kh\u00e1c. Nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng \u0111am m\u00ea Eros nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec l\u00e2u d\u00e0i n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00eam c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 Philia (t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n) hay Pragma (t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00fd tr\u00ed).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Philia \u2013 T\u00ecnh B\u1ea1n<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Philia l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed, s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb chung. Aristotle t\u1eebng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ecdn b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00ec ba l\u00fd do: v\u00ec l\u1ee3i \u00edch, v\u00ec ni\u1ec1m vui, ho\u1eb7c v\u00ec ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Trong \u0111\u00f3, lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t l\u00e0 cao qu\u00fd v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi Eros, Philia kh\u00f4ng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn hay \u0111am m\u00ea, m\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1ee1ng m\u1ed9 l\u1eabn nhau. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh c\u00f9ng ch\u00fang ta qua nh\u1eefng th\u0103ng tr\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"tinh-yeu-nam-nu\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng ch\u00fa \u00fd l\u00e0 Philia th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng quan tr\u1ecdng cho nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng. Nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a nhau tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau. T\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh, tin c\u1eady v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft s\u00e2u s\u1eafc – nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i cho m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Storge \u2013 T\u00ecnh C\u1ea3m Gia \u0110\u00ecnh<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Storge l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m g\u1eafn b\u00f3 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i “t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm” hay “chinh ph\u1ee5c”, m\u00e0 sinh ra \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 trong m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta. T\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 d\u00e0nh cho con c\u00e1i, t\u00ecnh anh em ru\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt, hay t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung m\u00e1i nh\u00e0 t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf \u0111\u1ec1u thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 Storge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi Eros hay Philia, Storge \u00edt ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o c\u00e1 t\u00ednh hay s\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn. Ch\u00fang ta y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec h\u1ecd ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o, m\u00e0 v\u00ec h\u1ecd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 hy sinh th\u1ea7m l\u1eb7ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong v\u0103n h\u00f3a Vi\u1ec7t Nam, Storge \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n r\u1ea5t r\u00f5 n\u00e9t qua c\u00e1c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 hi\u1ebfu th\u1ea3o, t\u00ecnh anh em, hay quan ni\u1ec7m “m\u00e1u ch\u1ea3y ru\u1ed9t m\u1ec1m”. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau mang t\u00ednh nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng, t\u1ea1o c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c an to\u00e0n v\u00e0 thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 cho m\u1ed7i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agape \u2013 L\u00f2ng B\u00e1c \u00c1i<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Agape l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1ecb tha, r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m cao qu\u00fd nh\u1ea5t, th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua l\u00f2ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n d\u00e0nh cho nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i, thi\u00ean nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 v\u0169 tr\u1ee5. Agape kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi l\u1ee3i \u00edch hay s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, Agape th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa d\u00e0nh cho lo\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi, hay t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e0nh cho ch\u00fang sinh. Nh\u01b0ng trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng th\u1ebf t\u1ee5c, Agape c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb thi\u1ec7n, vi\u1ec7c quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng, hay \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xa l\u1ea1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"tinh-yeu-thoi-hien-dai\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

L\u00f2ng b\u00e1c \u00e1i Agape \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ea7y nhi\u1ec5u lo\u1ea1n th\u00f4ng tin v\u00e0 chia r\u1ebd. Khi ch\u00fang ta nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1ecb tha, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u1ed1ng hi\u1ebfn cho c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng m\u00e0 c\u00f2n t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y \u00fd ngh\u0129a s\u00e2u s\u1eafc cho ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ludus \u2013 T\u00ecnh C\u1ea3m B\u00f4ng \u0110\u00f9a<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ludus l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau vui ch\u01a1i, nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 vui v\u1ebb m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n cam k\u1ebft nghi\u00eam t\u00fac. Ludus t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00edch th\u00fa trong kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n trong nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n t\u00ecnh, nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh ng\u1eafn ng\u1ee7i, hay nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed v\u00e0 th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n. Ludus kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 h\u1eddi h\u1ee3t hay v\u00f4 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, m\u00e0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 cam k\u1ebft l\u00e2u d\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u1ea7n c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm Ludus trong khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia mong mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n. S\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng. Quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean c\u1ea7n th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh mong \u0111\u1ee3i t\u1eeb m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pragma \u2013 T\u00ecnh C\u1ea3m L\u00fd Tr\u00ed<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Pragma l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, l\u00fd tr\u00ed v\u00e0 c\u00e1c l\u1ee3i \u00edch chung. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u00f3 t\u00ednh th\u1ef1c d\u1ee5ng, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh, \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, hay kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00edch trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i Vi\u1ec7t Nam, Pragma th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n “m\u00f4n \u0111\u0103ng h\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed1i” hay nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n kinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. Nhi\u1ec1u gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1eabn coi tr\u1ecdng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0y khi l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi cho con em m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng, nh\u01b0ng Pragma kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 x\u1ea5u xa n\u1ebfu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u00e0 c\u1edfi m\u1edf. Nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb Pragma c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau s\u00e2u s\u1eafc kh\u00e1c theo th\u1eddi gian. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1eeb ban \u0111\u1ea7u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Philautia \u2013 T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau B\u1ea3n Th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Philautia l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u00e0nh cho ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t, b\u1edfi n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Philautia kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp nh\u1eefng ranh gi\u1edbi c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c b\u1ec1n tinh th\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, Philautia c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c khi bi\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 cao, \u00e1i k\u1ef7 hay ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n th\u1edd \u01a1 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. S\u1ef1 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a – ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 tin v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1ed7i tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u00edch k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 xa c\u00e1ch v\u1edbi c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i, vi\u1ec7c nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng Philautia l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u00e1p l\u1ef1c so s\u00e1nh v\u00e0 ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c Kh\u00eda C\u1ea1nh V\u0103n H\u00f3a V\u00e0 Tri\u1ebft H\u1ecdc V\u1ec1 T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u0103n h\u00f3a s\u00e2u r\u1ed9ng. M\u1ed7i n\u1ec1n v\u0103n minh \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec3u ri\u00eang v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng phong ph\u00fa trong nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Hy L\u1ea1p c\u1ed5 \u0111\u1ea1i v\u1edbi 7 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng cho t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi La M\u00e3 k\u1ebf th\u1eeba nh\u01b0ng th\u00eam v\u00e0o y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 th\u1ef1c d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0110\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a v\u00e0 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng trong t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, trong khi v\u0103n h\u00f3a \u00c1 \u0110\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 Trung Qu\u1ed1c, Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n l\u1ea1i ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong v\u0103n h\u00f3a Vi\u1ec7t Nam truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau g\u1eafn li\u1ec1n v\u1edbi kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m “duy\u00ean ph\u1eadn” v\u00e0 “ngh\u0129a v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng”. Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ebfu th\u1ea3o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t l\u00ean h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u, t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c th\u00f9 ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t trong c\u00e1ch ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u00e0 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o c\u0169ng \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ph\u1eadt gi\u00e1o nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh t\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n, Kit\u00f4 gi\u00e1o \u0111\u1ec1 cao t\u00ecnh y\u00eau hy sinh, trong khi Kh\u1ed5ng gi\u00e1o ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1c kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh v\u0103n h\u00f3a n\u00e0y gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn r\u1ed9ng m\u1edf h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb g\u00f2 b\u00f3 trong nh\u1eefng khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng s\u1ef1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng trong c\u00e1ch m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau V\u00e0 S\u1ef1 Ch\u1eefa L\u00e0nh C\u1ea3m X\u00fac<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh k\u1ef3 di\u1ec7u, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ai \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng tinh th\u1ea7n. M\u1ed7i lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u1ed3i ph\u1ee5c v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Philautia (t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n) l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t trong h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh. Khi ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta t\u1ea1o ra n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y bao g\u1ed3m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n, thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp ranh gi\u1edbi c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed t\u1ec7 b\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agape (l\u00f2ng b\u00e1c \u00e1i) gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn ra kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y \u00fd ngh\u0129a qua vi\u1ec7c quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng. Khi ch\u00fang ta cho \u0111i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadn l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh ban t\u1eb7ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Philia (t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n) cung c\u1ea5p m\u1ea1ng l\u01b0\u1edbi h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe, chia s\u1ebb v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh c\u00f9ng ch\u00fang ta qua nh\u1eefng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 g\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea3n chi\u1ebfu gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1ch quan v\u00e0 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Storge (t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gia \u0111\u00ecnh) mang l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t c\u1eadp, vi\u1ec7c h\u00e0n g\u1eafn v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh s\u00e2u s\u1eafc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i t\u1eeb 22 \u0111\u1ebfn 45, vi\u1ec7c c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u1ea3i qua nhi\u1ec1u thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1edbn trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. Hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c d\u1ea1ng th\u1ee9c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u H\u1ecfi Th\u01b0\u1eddng G\u1eb7p V\u1ec1 T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0m sao \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0o?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e3y t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111am m\u00ea v\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t, \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 Eros. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng, \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 Philia. Quan s\u00e1t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn di\u1ec7n ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f9ng l\u00fac trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e0m n\u00ean nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 phong ph\u00fa, b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng. M\u1ed9t c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u01b0\u1eddng k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p Eros (\u0111am m\u00ea), Philia (t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n), v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00eam Pragma (t\u00ednh th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf) \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e2u d\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ea1i sao t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111am m\u00ea (Eros) l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng b\u1ec1n l\u00e2u?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eros d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ngu\u00f4i ngoai theo th\u1eddi gian n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1edfi c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, c\u1ea7n ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00eam t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00edch trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n (Philautia) c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u00edch k\u1ef7?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng, mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n duy tr\u00ec s\u1ef1 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng. Y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n ti\u00ean quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt. Ch\u1ec9 khi b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u1ec3 cho \u0111i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ki\u1ec7t qu\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m b\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f9a (Ludus) sang t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nghi\u00eam t\u00fac?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb c\u1ea3 hai ph\u00eda. C\u1ea7n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn v\u1ec1 mong mu\u1ed1n v\u00e0 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng, d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft s\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 nhau, v\u00e0 t\u1eeb t\u1eeb x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft. Tuy nhi\u00ean, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 Ludus \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau s\u00e2u s\u1eafc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u1ebft Lu\u1eadn V\u00e0 L\u1eddi Khuy\u00ean<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 7 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 m\u1edf ra m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac phong ph\u00fa v\u00e0 \u0111a chi\u1ec1u. T\u1eeb t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111am m\u00ea Eros \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00f2ng b\u00e1c \u00e1i Agape, t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gia \u0111\u00ecnh Storge \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh Philia – m\u1ed7i lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u1ec1u mang m\u1ed9t gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0o cao qu\u00fd hay th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m h\u01a1n lo\u1ea1i kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang ch\u1ec9 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 trong c\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c d\u1ea1ng th\u1ee9c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng v\u00e0 tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, h\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. Philautia l\u00e0 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng cho t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c. Khi b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 thu h\u00fat nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m t\u00edch c\u1ef1c t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e3y m\u1edf l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111a d\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, kh\u00f4ng g\u00f2 b\u00f3 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n trong nh\u1eefng khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh. \u0110\u00f4i khi, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n d\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra v\u00e0 tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng, \u0111\u1eebng ng\u1ea7n ng\u1ea1i t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p. True Love \u2013 Tr\u1ea1m Y\u00eau<\/a> hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt, n\u01a1i c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00e1c nhau c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00f2a quy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n c\u00f9ng nhau. V\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed9i ng\u0169 chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd gi\u00e0u kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 quy tr\u00ecnh k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i minh b\u1ea1ch, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n trong h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ebfn. M\u1ed7i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, m\u1ed7i tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi, tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh phi\u00ean b\u1ea3n t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. H\u00e3y ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 tin r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn khi ch\u00fang ta s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau – hai t\u1eeb quen thu\u1ed9c nh\u01b0ng \u1ea9n ch\u1ee9a bao \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ed \u1ea9n. C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u00fang ta th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p n\u00e0y? Hay ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn gi\u1eefa \u0111am m\u00ea, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng? T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c “b\u01b0\u1edbm b\u01b0\u1edbm” trong b\u1ee5ng […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3278,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_gspb_post_css":"","_tocer_settings":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3277","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-true-love"],"blocksy_meta":[],"lang":"vi","translations":{"vi":3277},"pll_sync_post":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3277","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3277"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3277\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3285,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3277\/revisions\/3285"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3277"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3277"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3277"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}