{"id":3795,"date":"2026-02-06T11:58:59","date_gmt":"2026-02-06T04:58:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/?p=3795"},"modified":"2026-02-06T11:59:14","modified_gmt":"2026-02-06T04:59:14","slug":"vo-tam-la-gi-cach-nhan-biet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/vo-tam-la-gi-cach-nhan-biet\/","title":{"rendered":"V\u00f4 T\u00e2m L\u00e0 G\u00ec? C\u00e1ch Nh\u1eadn Bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 Kh\u1eafc Ph\u1ee5c Hi\u1ec7u Qu\u1ea3 Trong M\u1ed1i Quan H\u1ec7"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 t\u1eebng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang “v\u00f4 h\u00ecnh” trong ch\u00ednh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng? Khi nh\u1eefng chia s\u1ebb, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 tan bi\u1ebfn v\u00e0o h\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t ai th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe hay quan t\u00e2m? C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y th\u1eadt \u0111au l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf n\u00ean ho\u00e0i nghi v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"vo-tam\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Theo kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i tr\u1ebb t\u1ea1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam \u0111\u1ec1u g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 “thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m” trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ee9c th\u1eddi m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 m\u1edf l\u00f2ng trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1eady v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 g\u00ec? L\u00e0m sao \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c? V\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n c\u1ea3, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p n\u00e0o hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y? B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u1eafc m\u1eafc \u1ea5y, t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00f4 T\u00e2m L\u00e0 G\u00ec? \u0110\u1ecbnh Ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 \u00dd Ngh\u0129a<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

V\u00f4 t\u00e2m, theo ngh\u0129a \u0111en trong ti\u1ebfng Vi\u1ec7t, l\u00e0 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng, th\u1edd \u01a1 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c “qu\u00ean” hay “b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n” m\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111i\u1ec7u v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m s\u00e2u s\u1eafc trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa v\u00f4 t\u00e2m t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi v\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m m\u1ea1n t\u00ednh. V\u00f4 t\u00e2m t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, \u00e1p l\u1ef1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c khi \u00e1p l\u1ef1c gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, v\u00f4 t\u00e2m m\u1ea1n t\u00ednh \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n trong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch, th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua vi\u1ec7c li\u00ean t\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c trong th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong v\u0103n h\u00f3a Vi\u1ec7t Nam, c\u00e2u “L\u00e1 l\u00e0nh \u0111\u00f9m l\u00e1 r\u00e1ch” th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n tinh th\u1ea7n t\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00e2n t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 \u0103n s\u00e2u v\u00e0o t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c d\u00e2n t\u1ed9c. Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y, t\u1ea1o ra kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. S\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 c\u00f2n khi\u1ebfn ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd m\u1ea5t \u0111i nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i \u00fd ngh\u0129a trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 dao \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eb9 – khi ch\u1ec9 th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1eb7ng – khi th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean v\u00e0 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c th\u1edd \u01a1 v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh. Hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 \u0111\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn kh\u00e1ch quan h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ra h\u01b0\u1edbng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00f4 T\u00e2m Trong T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau C\u00f3 Ngh\u0129a L\u00e0 G\u00ec?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Khi \u0111\u1eb7t trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m, chia s\u1ebb v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi m\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1edd \u01a1 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i, khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a v\u00f4 t\u00e2m trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau bao g\u1ed3m vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng l\u1eafng nghe khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng, thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u00edt c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c giao ti\u1ebfp s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai hay nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ecf ra nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 vi\u1ec7c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 h\u01a1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ni\u1ec1m vui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3, c\u1ea7n ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng gi\u1eefa v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng “b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi”. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n v\u1eabn s\u1ebd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, v\u1eabn quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 h\u1ecfi th\u0103m d\u00f9 ch\u1ec9 qua tin nh\u1eafn ng\u1eafn. Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m s\u1ebd th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 th\u1edd \u01a1 ngay c\u1ea3 khi c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian r\u1ea3nh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi b\u1ea1n chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ec7 h\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau ch\u1ec9 g\u1eadt g\u00f9 qua loa r\u1ed3i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u01b0\u1edbt \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i. Khi b\u1ea1n mong \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00f4m \u1ea5p an \u1ee7i, h\u1ecd n\u00f3i “Em ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i \u0111i, anh c\u00f2n vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m” m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n v\u00f4 t\u00e2m trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau – s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111i\u1ec7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u b\u00e1o \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ecf xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n khi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1edd \u01a1 n\u00e0y k\u00e9o d\u00e0i h\u01a1n ba th\u00e1ng ho\u1eb7c khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n xao nh\u00e3ng nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. L\u00fac n\u00e0y, vi\u1ec7c th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ea5p thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8 D\u1ea5u Hi\u1ec7u Nh\u1eadn Bi\u1ebft Ng\u01b0\u1eddi V\u00f4 T\u00e2m Trong T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 kh\u00e1ch quan v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, danh s\u00e1ch d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft c\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y b\u1ed1n trong s\u1ed1 t\u00e1m d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u00fac c\u1ea7n quan t\u00e2m nghi\u00eam t\u00fac \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea7n nh\u1edb l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng “d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n” ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 h\u00e3y quan s\u00e1t m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1ch quan trong th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fac kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u. Tuy nhi\u00ean, khi nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi n\u00e0y tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u00f3i quen, vi\u1ec7c giao ti\u1ebfp th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"vo-tam-la-gi\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebfu S\u1ef1 L\u1eafng Nghe v\u00e0 Quan T\u00e2m<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u d\u1ec5 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u1ecfi han v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng, hay nh\u1eefng g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra trong ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 quan tr\u1ecdng, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c t\u1ecf ra th\u1edd \u01a1, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra ho\u1eb7c ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i c\u00e1c t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac qua n\u00e9t m\u1eb7t, gi\u1ecdng n\u00f3i hay ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3. Thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u01b0\u1edbt \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i, xem TV ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1c khi b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i, c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u1eafn g\u1ecdn, m\u00e1y m\u00f3c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“H\u00f4m nay em g\u1eb7p s\u1ebfp m\u1eafng v\u1ec1 d\u1ef1 \u00e1n, em bu\u1ed3n l\u1eafm anh \u1ea1” – B\u1ea1n chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi gi\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec7u r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c an \u1ee7i. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u00e1p: “\u00c0… \u00c0, anh \u0111ang xem tr\u1eadn b\u00f3ng n\u00e0y, em n\u00f3i sau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f4ng?” Ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n h\u01a1n, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 g\u1eadt g\u00f9 “\u1eeam” m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch m\u00e1y m\u00f3c r\u1ed3i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu l\u1eafng nghe n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua l\u1eddi n\u00f3i m\u00e0 c\u00f2n qua th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9. Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang l\u00e0m, nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o m\u1eaft b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 cho th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111ang th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp thu nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n chia s\u1ebb. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng Quan T\u00e2m \u0110\u1ebfn Chi Ti\u1ebft Nh\u1ecf<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ed9 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng nh\u1ea5t. H\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng qu\u00ean nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0 sinh nh\u1eadt, k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1c ng\u00e0y l\u1ec5 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do tr\u00ed nh\u1edb k\u00e9m m\u00e0 do thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 \u01b0u ti\u00ean v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u00e0o t\u00e2m tr\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng nh\u1edb ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n – t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ed3 \u0103n y\u00eau th\u00edch, m\u00e0u s\u1eafc \u01b0a th\u00edch \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111am m\u00ea. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf qua nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1ecf nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a nh\u01b0 ki\u1ec3u t\u00f3c m\u1edbi, trang ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, hay n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c trang \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n khi g\u1eb7p h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n h\u01a1n l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn chu k\u1ef3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra khi b\u1ea1n stress, vui v\u1ebb hay lo l\u1eafng ch\u1ec9 qua gi\u1ecdng n\u00f3i ho\u1eb7c bi\u1ec3u c\u1ea3m. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng tin c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh, hay nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n quan tr\u1ecdng m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng chia s\u1ebb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n c\u1eaft t\u00f3c ng\u1eafn sau hai n\u0103m \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f3c d\u00e0i, mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen ng\u1ee3i v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t. Nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ebfn ba ng\u00e0y sau, khi b\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp “Anh c\u00f3 th\u1ea5y em kh\u00e1c g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng?”, h\u1ecd m\u1edbi ch\u1ee3t nh\u1eadn ra. Sinh nh\u1eadt n\u0103m ngo\u00e1i, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf: “H\u00f4m nay l\u00e0 sinh nh\u1eadt em \u0111\u1ea5y anh” m\u1edbi th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp. Nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ghi nh\u1edb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u01afu Ti\u00ean C\u00f4ng Vi\u1ec7c H\u01a1n T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ranh gi\u1edbi gi\u1eefa “th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n v\u00ec tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m” v\u00e0 “d\u00f9ng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ed1n tr\u00e1nh t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m” \u0111\u00f4i khi r\u1ea5t mong manh, nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t khi \u0111\u00e3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua ranh gi\u1edbi \u1ea5y, t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00ean m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u00f4n l\u1ea5y deadline, cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp, d\u1ef1 \u00e1n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ee7y b\u1ecf c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ecfa thu\u1eadn t\u1eeb tr\u01b0\u1edbc, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb v\u00e0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp th\u1eddi gian h\u1ee3p l\u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng gi\u1eefa c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi \u0111ang \u1edf b\u00ean b\u1ea1n, h\u1ecd v\u1eabn li\u00ean t\u1ee5c ki\u1ec3m tra email, nh\u1eadn c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c g\u1ecdi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea5p b\u00e1ch. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y t\u1ea1o c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i “c\u1ea1nh tranh” v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u1eefa l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai chung m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 t\u1eadp trung n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng xoay quanh c\u00e1c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, trong khi nh\u1eefng \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t t\u1ed5 \u1ea5m hay nh\u1eefng k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch c\u00f9ng nhau g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hai tu\u1ea7n li\u00ean ti\u1ebfp, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng cho bu\u1ed5i h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n – t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ecdn trang ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u00e0 h\u00e0ng y\u00eau th\u00edch. Nh\u01b0ng v\u00e0o ba m\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00fat tr\u01b0\u1edbc gi\u1edd h\u1eb9n, tin nh\u1eafn quen thu\u1ed9c l\u1ea1i xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n: “Em \u01a1i, anh c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c g\u1ea5p \u1edf c\u00f4ng ty, h\u1eb9n em tu\u1ea7n sau nh\u00e9”. V\u00e0 “tu\u1ea7n sau” \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ebfn, v\u00ec l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 “vi\u1ec7c g\u1ea5p” kh\u00e1c. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t l\u00ean b\u00e0n c\u00e2n c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebfu S\u1ef1 Chia S\u1ebb v\u00e0 K\u1ebft N\u1ed1i T\u00ecnh C\u1ea3m<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh, c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u m\u1edf l\u00f2ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh – nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 v\u00e0 n\u1ed7i lo. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m l\u1ea1i r\u1ea5t \u00edt khi ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng k\u1ec3 v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 hay nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m trong ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3ng k\u00edn, kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan tr\u1ecdng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 hay \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau nhau h\u00e0ng th\u00e1ng m\u00e0 v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1edbi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9, anh ch\u1ecb em c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u00edch \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec, hay h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi ai \u1edf c\u00f4ng ty. S\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng th\u00f4ng tin n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf v\u1ec1 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb s\u1ed1ng, \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n hay nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng m\u1edf ra nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n ng\u1eafn g\u1ecdn, kh\u00f4ng m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 hay t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 thi\u1ebfu \u0111i chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i tinh th\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“H\u00f4m nay anh th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? C\u00f3 g\u00ec vui kh\u00f4ng?” – B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi v\u1edbi mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi: “B\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00f4i.” Khi b\u1ea1n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c: “Anh c\u00f3 vui kh\u00f4ng khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u0103ng ch\u1ee9c?”, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u00e1p: “C\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.” M\u1ecdi cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 \u0111ang n\u00f3i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00f4 c\u1ea3m, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 hay nh\u1eefng chia s\u1ebb c\u00f3 chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ngh\u0129 g\u00ec, c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebfu T\u00f4n Tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 Th\u1ea5u Hi\u1ec3u<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t, th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 “c\u1edd \u0111\u1ecf” c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng hi\u1ec3u quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, ho\u1eb7c ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t, ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau c\u1ea7u thay v\u00ec l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng coi nh\u1eb9 ho\u1eb7c xem th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n cho l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 “Sao em ngh\u0129 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ebf?” hay “Chuy\u1ec7n v\u1eady m\u00e0 c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i stress” m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd coi l\u00e0 nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a l\u1edbn \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. S\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m n\u00e0y th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng khi b\u1ea1n g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n ho\u1eb7c th\u1eed th\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng lo ng\u1ea1i h\u01a1n l\u00e0 h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0a ra c\u00e1c quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh quan tr\u1ecdng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3 hai m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng tham kh\u1ea3o \u00fd ki\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 “anh\/em bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n” ho\u1eb7c “anh\/em \u0111\u00fang” khi b\u1ea1n b\u00e0y t\u1ecf \u00fd ki\u1ebfn kh\u00e1c, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi tr\u1ecdng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi b\u1ea1n lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eafng nghe, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i: “Sao em c\u1ee9 ngh\u0129 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ebf? Chuy\u1ec7n v\u1eady m\u00e0 c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i stress.” Khi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0: “Em hi\u1ec3u g\u00ec m\u00e0 g\u00f3p \u00fd? Anh l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y l\u00e2u r\u1ed3i.” Nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 cho th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng m\u00e0 c\u00f2n th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng coi b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebfu S\u1ef1 Quan T\u00e2m \u0110\u1ebfn S\u1ee9c Kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 H\u1ea1nh Ph\u00fac<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Vi\u1ec7c quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean nh\u1ea5t. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi han hay quan t\u00e2m khi b\u1ea1n \u1ed1m \u0111au, m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 lo l\u1eafng hay \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t c\u00e1ch gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed9 \u0103n u\u1ed1ng, gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7, ho\u1eb7c th\u00f3i quen sinh ho\u1ea1t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh s\u1ebd nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf b\u1ea1n \u0103n u\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7, ng\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ee7 gi\u1ea5c, ho\u1eb7c quan t\u00e2m khi th\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t cho s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00e1ng lo ng\u1ea1i l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3, lo \u00e2u, hay th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ho\u1eb7c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i cho s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n theo \u0111u\u1ed5i, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng tham gia hay quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n s\u1ed1t cao 38-39 \u0111\u1ed9, n\u1eb1m li\u1ec7t gi\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y. H\u1ecd bi\u1ebft t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eafn tin: “U\u1ed1ng thu\u1ed1c v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i nh\u00e9” r\u1ed3i im l\u1eb7ng su\u1ed1t c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi th\u0103m th\u00eam. Trong khi b\u1ea1n mong \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c g\u1ecdi h\u1ecfi th\u0103m, m\u1ed9t b\u00e1t ch\u00e1o n\u00f3ng, hay ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ec3 an \u1ee7i, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i t\u1ecf ra nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng Gi\u1eef L\u1eddi H\u1ee9a<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 tin c\u1eady l\u00e0 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c gi\u1eef l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u00f2ng tin. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u1ee9a h\u1eb9n c\u00e1c \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u1edbn nh\u1ecf nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ee9a s\u1ebd l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111i\u1ec1u kia m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng, nh\u01b0ng khi \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n l\u1ea1i qu\u00ean ho\u1eb7c t\u00ecm l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00ec ho\u00e3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng lo ng\u1ea1i l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c l\u00fd do khi th\u1ea5t h\u1ee9a ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh cam k\u1ebft. Thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd coi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a nh\u01b0 “chuy\u1ec7n nh\u1ecf”, kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00f9y \u00fd m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n b\u00e1o tr\u01b0\u1edbc hay xin l\u1ed7i ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh. S\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m n\u00e0y d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n l\u00e0m m\u00f2n l\u00f2ng tin trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp ho\u1eb7c s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa khi l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c th\u1ea5t h\u1ee9a l\u00ean m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o th\u00e0nh th\u00f3i quen “h\u1ee9a su\u00f4ng” khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u1ea5t l\u00f2ng tin d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ecd h\u1ee9a s\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3n b\u1ea1n tan s\u1edf ba l\u1ea7n trong tu\u1ea7n nh\u01b0ng c\u1ea3 ba l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec1u qu\u00ean ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed9t xu\u1ea5t. H\u1ee9a s\u1ebd \u0111i \u0103n c\u00f9ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n v\u00e0o cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n nh\u01b0ng ph\u00fat ch\u00f3t l\u1ea1i b\u1ecf b\u00f9a v\u00ec “c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c g\u1ea5p”. M\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 “l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng”, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u01b0u ti\u00ean v\u00e0 tin c\u1eady. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u1ea5t \u0111i \u00fd ngh\u0129a, v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng g\u00ec v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng cam k\u1ebft c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebfu S\u1ef1 L\u00e3ng M\u1ea1n v\u00e0 Ng\u1ecdt Ng\u00e0o<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00f4ng hoa \u0111\u1eaft ti\u1ec1n hay nh\u1eefng m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 l\u1edbn m\u00e0 c\u00f2n n\u1eb1m \u1edf nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd nh\u1ecf v\u00e0 \u00fd ngh\u0129a nh\u01b0 mua hoa khi \u0111i qua c\u1eeda h\u00e0ng, n\u1ea5u m\u00f3n \u0103n y\u00eau th\u00edch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, hay vi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi nh\u1eafn ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o kh\u00f4ng l\u00fd do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m qua c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 nh\u01b0 \u00f4m, h\u00f4n, n\u1eafm tay hay vu\u1ed1t ve m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean. Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u00e0m ch\u00e1n, m\u00e1y m\u00f3c, thi\u1ebfu \u0111i nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi\u1ebfn tr\u00e1i tim rung \u0111\u1ed9ng. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ghi nh\u1edb ho\u1eb7c c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00e1i t\u1ea1o nh\u1eefng k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c “l\u00e0m m\u1edbi” m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u00fa v\u1ecb hay tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m m\u1edbi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m coi romance nh\u01b0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ho\u1eb7c “tr\u1ebb con”, kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 “vitamin” nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh: g\u1eb7p nhau \u2192 \u0103n c\u01a1m \u2192 xem phim \u2192 v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng b\u1eefa s\u00e1ng b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c mang \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u01b0\u1eddng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u01b0 t\u00ecnh ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 trong t\u00fai x\u00e1ch, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c d\u1ea1o ph\u1ed1 l\u00fac ho\u00e0ng h\u00f4n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 nh\u1ecf kh\u00f4ng l\u00fd do ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec “th\u1ea5y em s\u1ebd th\u00edch”. B\u1ea1n nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ea7u y\u00eau nhau v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi: “T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u r\u1ed3i? Hay l\u00e0 n\u00f3 ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3 Nguy\u00ean Nh\u00e2n Ch\u00ednh G\u00e2y Ra S\u1ef1 V\u00f4 T\u00e2m<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. Thay v\u00ec ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi c\u00e1c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, khi ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh \u0111\u1eb1ng sau nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea7n nh\u1edb l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ai v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u0169ng l\u00e0 “ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ea5u” hay c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh kh\u00e1ch quan, nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft, ho\u1eb7c simply nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch. Khi ch\u00fang ta ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u thay v\u00ec l\u00ean \u00e1n, c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n s\u1ebd cao h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i th\u00e0nh ba nh\u00f3m ch\u00ednh: nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, \u00e1p l\u1ef1c t\u1eeb cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u1ea3y sinh tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp trong ch\u00ednh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nguy\u00ean Nh\u00e2n T\u1eeb T\u00e2m L\u00fd C\u00e1 Nh\u00e2n<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e3 mang trong m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u1eeb r\u1ea5t l\u00e2u, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9. Thi\u1ebfu k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng giao ti\u1ebfp c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u00edt th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, n\u01a1i vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 “y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i” ho\u1eb7c “kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft”, th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ef1 ti s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00e1c. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ee3 b\u1ecb t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i ho\u1eb7c t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00ean t\u1ea1o kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7. H\u1ecd tin r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng m\u1edf l\u00f2ng, kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m s\u00e2u s\u1eafc, th\u00ec s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ebft th\u00fac. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 ch\u1ebf ph\u00f2ng v\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i g\u00e2y ra nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u1eeb c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u00e2u d\u00e0i. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng b\u1ecb ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i, l\u1eeba d\u1ed1i, ho\u1eb7c t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e2u s\u1eafc c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1edd \u01a1 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh vi\u1ec7c l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n lo \u00e2u x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m, ADHD, ho\u1eb7c r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n ph\u1ed5 t\u1ef1 k\u1ef7 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anh Minh l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh “truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng”, n\u01a1i b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd n\u00f3i “y\u00eau con” hay c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 \u00e2u y\u1ebfm. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 “y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i” v\u00e0 “m\u1ea5t m\u1eb7t \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng”. \u0110\u1ebfn khi c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, anh kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m d\u00f9 trong l\u00f2ng y\u00eau em r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. Anh mu\u1ed1n quan t\u00e2m nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i g\u00ec, l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 em c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u1ea5y. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 em c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y anh v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, trong khi anh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i v\u00e0 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c1p L\u1ef1c T\u1eeb Cu\u1ed9c S\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 M\u00f4i Tr\u01b0\u1eddng<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00f4i khi, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m kh\u00f4ng xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng \u00e1p l\u1ef1c kh\u00e1ch quan trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. \u00c1p l\u1ef1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 l\u1edbn, deadline li\u00ean t\u1ee5c, v\u00e0 n\u1ed7i lo s\u1ee3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i trong s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ec3 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng c\u0169ng t\u1ea1o ra c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 lo \u00e2u v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, khi\u1ebfn t\u00e2m tr\u00ed lu\u00f4n b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch ki\u1ebfm s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 duy tr\u00ec cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Khi ph\u1ea3i lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n thu\u00ea nh\u00e0, ti\u1ec1n \u0103n, c\u00e1c kho\u1ea3n n\u1ee3, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh “xa x\u1ec9 ph\u1ea9m” m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 chi tr\u1ea3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 gia \u0111\u00ecnh n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1 nh\u01b0 b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 \u1ed1m \u0111au c\u1ea7n ch\u0103m s\u00f3c, anh ch\u1ecb em g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u1ea7n h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3n n\u1ee3 n\u1ea7n t\u00edch t\u1ee5 t\u1eeb th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u1ea1n ki\u1ec7t n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n “ch\u1ed7” trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed \u0111\u1ec3 quan t\u00e2m th\u00eam ai n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed9c h\u1ea1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, c\u1ea1nh tranh kh\u1ed1c li\u1ec7t, ho\u1eb7c s\u1ef1 b\u00f3c l\u1ed9t v\u1ec1 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m. Khi ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi stress li\u00ean t\u1ee5c t\u1ea1i n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, h\u1ecd v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n “t\u1eaft m\u00e1y” v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00e0o n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u1ecb Linh ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m hai c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 g\u00f3p c\u0103n nh\u00e0 nh\u1ecf, m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c 14-15 ti\u1ebfng. V\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u00e0 l\u00fac 10 gi\u1edd t\u1ed1i, ch\u1ecb ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n n\u1eb1m im v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ai. Ch\u1ecb bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh n\u00ean quan t\u00e2m ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e3 ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c. “Em hi\u1ec3u ch\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng c\u1ed1 \u00fd v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00e3 v\u1eaft ki\u1ec7t n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb r\u1ed3i. Ch\u1ecb c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i m\u00e0 em x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1ea5n \u0110\u1ec1 Trong Ch\u00ednh M\u1ed1i Quan H\u1ec7<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00f4i khi nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m l\u1ea1i n\u1eb1m ngay trong ch\u00ednh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f3. Khi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ban \u0111\u1ea7u phai nh\u1ea1t, khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u00e0m ch\u00e1n v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu \u0111i s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea5n kh\u00edch, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i th\u1edd \u01a1. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng hay m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u1eefa, nh\u01b0ng v\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do kh\u00e1c nhau – c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 th\u00f3i quen, s\u1ee3 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, ho\u1eb7c \u00e1p l\u1ef1c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i – h\u1ecd v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch m\u00e1y m\u00f3c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn v\u00e0 xung \u0111\u1ed9t t\u00edch t\u1ee5 l\u00e2u ng\u00e0y m\u00e0 ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft th\u1ecfa \u0111\u00e1ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m. Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00ec nh\u1eefng tranh c\u00e3i l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch “r\u00fat lui” v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c t\u1ef1 v\u1ec7. Thay v\u00ec ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi xung \u0111\u1ed9t, h\u1ecd tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u1edd \u01a1 \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh th\u00eam c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eeb t\u1eeb tr\u1edf n\u00ean v\u00f4 t\u00e2m. Khi h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ghi nh\u1eadn ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh “th\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng n\u1eefa” v\u00e0 r\u00fat v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba – d\u00f9 l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u1eadt hay ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ebfn ai \u0111\u00f3 – c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m chuy\u1ec3n h\u01b0\u1edbng ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb ph\u00e2n t\u00e1n. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau ba n\u0103m y\u00eau nhau, H\u00f9ng v\u00e0 Linh nh\u1eadn ra h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c nhau trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. Linh mu\u1ed1n k\u1ebft h\u00f4n sinh con s\u1edbm \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh, trong khi H\u00f9ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111i du h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c “an c\u01b0 l\u1eadp nghi\u1ec7p”. Linh th\u00edch cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng y\u00ean b\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, H\u00f9ng l\u1ea1i th\u00edch th\u1eed th\u00e1ch v\u00e0 m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, H\u00f9ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u1edd \u01a1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau Linh n\u1eefa, m\u00e0 v\u00ec anh kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai chung kh\u1ea3 thi gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00e1c \u0110\u1ed9ng Ti\u00eau C\u1ef1c C\u1ee7a S\u1ef1 V\u00f4 T\u00e2m Trong T\u00ecnh Y\u00eau<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1ee9c th\u1eddi m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u \u1ea5n s\u00e2u s\u1eafc, l\u00e2u d\u00e0i trong t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ednh c\u1ea5p b\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi t\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi qu\u00e1 mu\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u1ea2nh H\u01b0\u1edfng \u0110\u1ebfn S\u1ee9c Kh\u1ecfe T\u00e2m L\u00fd<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Khi s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n ngay trong ch\u00ednh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nguy c\u01a1 m\u1eafc tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m cao. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n khi \u1edf m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u – c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n khi c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng ai hi\u1ec3u m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"hau-qua-cua-viec-bi-doi-xu-vo-tam\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

R\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n lo \u00e2u v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n: “C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau? T\u00f4i c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 kh\u00f3 t\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng? C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u1ed7i do t\u00f4i?” Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n ph\u00e1 h\u1ee7y l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 tin, khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i \u1edf m\u1eb7t tinh th\u1ea7n m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t. R\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7, m\u1ea5t c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng \u0103n u\u1ed1ng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u1edbi c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng y\u00eau th\u00edch tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p. Hi\u1ec7u su\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c khi t\u00e2m tr\u00ed lu\u00f4n b\u1ecb \u00e1m \u1ea3nh b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh vi t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ho\u1eb7c l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng ch\u1ea5t k\u00edch th\u00edch nh\u01b0 r\u01b0\u1ee3u bia, thu\u1ed1c l\u00e1 \u0111\u1ec3 “t\u00ea li\u1ec7t” c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. T\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00e2u d\u00e0i c\u00f2n th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u1edf vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 m\u1edf l\u00f2ng trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t v\u00f2ng lu\u1ea9n qu\u1ea9n kh\u00f3 tho\u00e1t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau t\u00e1m th\u00e1ng y\u00eau m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, H\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u1ea5t ng\u1ee7, kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p. C\u00f4 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi: “M\u00ecnh c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i qu\u00e1 kh\u00f3 t\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng?” v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi m\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f4 cho l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Khi \u0111i kh\u00e1m t\u1ea1i b\u1ec7nh vi\u1ec7n, b\u00e1c s\u0129 ch\u1ea9n \u0111o\u00e1n c\u00f4 m\u1eafc tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m nh\u1eb9 v\u00e0 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n lo \u00e2u. “T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ng\u1edd m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00e0n ph\u00e1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ebf”, c\u00f4 chia s\u1ebb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1eadu Qu\u1ea3 \u0110\u1ed1i V\u1edbi M\u1ed1i Quan H\u1ec7<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t chu tr\u00ecnh ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ng\u0103n ch\u1eb7n n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi. Ban \u0111\u1ea7u, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, hy v\u1ecdng s\u1ebd “\u0111\u00e1nh th\u1ee9c” \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, khi nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i, s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 b\u1ee9c x\u00fac b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00edch t\u1ee5.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u00e0 tranh c\u00e3i ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean x\u1ea3y ra khi m\u1ed9t b\u00ean c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u00fang m\u1ee9c. Nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e3 n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng mang t\u00ednh x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 b\u00f9ng ph\u00e1t c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1ecb d\u1ed3n n\u00e9n qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u. Kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch c\u1ea3m x\u00fac gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn, h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong hai th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c nhau d\u00f9 v\u1eabn \u1edf c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t kh\u00f4ng gian.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111i\u1ec7u trong giao ti\u1ebfp c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng chung. Nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng ho\u1eb7c nh\u1ea1t nh\u1ebdo, nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eebng mang l\u1ea1i ni\u1ec1m vui chung gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch mi\u1ec5n c\u01b0\u1ee1ng. M\u1ed9t b\u00ean c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u1ebft c\u1ee5c th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chia tay ho\u1eb7c ly h\u00f4n trong \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn v\u00e0 cay \u0111\u1eafng. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ebft th\u00fac kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, m\u00e0 v\u00ec m\u1ed9t b\u00ean kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00f3, trong khi b\u00ean kia \u0111\u00e3 ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01a1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. S\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e2u d\u00e0i cho c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 sau n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n b\u1ea3y n\u0103m c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng Tu\u1ea5n – Mai k\u1ebft th\u00fac kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh hay b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, m\u00e0 v\u00ec Tu\u1ea5n qu\u00e1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m v\u1edbi v\u1ee3. Mai \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng thay \u0111\u1ed5i anh trong su\u1ed1t b\u1ed1n n\u0103m cu\u1ed1i, t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n, g\u1eedi anh \u0111i tham gia c\u00e1c kh\u00f3a h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng giao ti\u1ebfp, cho \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea7u c\u1ee9u s\u1ef1 tr\u1ee3 gi\u00fap t\u1eeb gia \u0111\u00ecnh hai b\u00ean. Nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u00f4 ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u1ed9p \u0111\u01a1n ly h\u00f4n. “Em kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 em c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i”, Mai chia s\u1ebb trong n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft khi k\u00fd gi\u1ea5y ly h\u00f4n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 C\u00e1ch Kh\u1eafc Ph\u1ee5c Hi\u1ec7u Qu\u1ea3 S\u1ef1 V\u00f4 T\u00e2m<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

May m\u1eafn thay, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 cam k\u1ebft v\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi li\u00ean quan. Qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ki\u00ean tr\u00ec t\u1eeb c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean, nh\u01b0ng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia th\u00e0nh ba c\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ed9 t\u0103ng d\u1ea7n: nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, c\u00e1ch hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng nhau h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, v\u00e0 khi n\u00e0o c\u1ea7n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, sau \u0111\u00f3 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n n\u00e2ng cao m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 can thi\u1ec7p khi c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"cach-khac-phuc-su-vo-tam\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u1ea3i Ph\u00e1p Cho C\u00e1 Nh\u00e2n<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t trong vi\u1ec7c kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. Vi\u1ec7c vi\u1ebft nh\u1eadt k\u00fd c\u1ea3m x\u00fac h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng pattern h\u00e0nh vi v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed7i t\u1ed1i, d\u00e0nh 5-10 ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ec3 ghi l\u1ea1i mood ch\u00ednh trong ng\u00e0y, nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u1ea3y sinh. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y gi\u00fap t\u0103ng c\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ef1 quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u00e0nh vi l\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y th\u00f4ng qua “Nghi th\u1ee9c 5 ph\u00fat quan t\u00e2m” l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng. M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y, d\u00e0nh \u00edt nh\u1ea5t 5 ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecfi han ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, l\u1eafng nghe kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m. B\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 “Em h\u00f4m nay th\u1ebf n\u00e0o?”, “C\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t x\u1ea3y ra kh\u00f4ng?”, v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng giao ti\u1ebfp l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 then ch\u1ed1t trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i. H\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch l\u1eafng nghe ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng – ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 nghe t\u1eeb ng\u1eef m\u00e0 c\u00f2n ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec7u, bi\u1ec3u c\u1ea3m khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t v\u00e0 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3. Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch paraphrase l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1eeba n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ee9ng minh r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

X\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng qua vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o v\u1ecb tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, thay v\u00ec \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean ho\u1eb7c gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c, h\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u00ecnh dung c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd trong t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00f3. H\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 “Em c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf n\u00e0o khi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra?” thay v\u00ec “Em n\u00ean l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ho\u00e0ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c ghi ch\u00e9p \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. Tu\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, anh ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n ghi l\u1ea1i ba c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ch\u00ednh trong ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Tu\u1ea7n th\u1ee9 hai, anh b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn bi\u1ec3u c\u1ea3m khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i khi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n, nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u anh \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y. Tu\u1ea7n th\u1ee9 ba, m\u1ed7i t\u1ed1i anh h\u1ecfi “Em h\u00f4m nay th\u1ebf n\u00e0o?” v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi thay v\u00ec ch\u1ec9 h\u1ecfi \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 l\u1ec5. T\u1eeb t\u1eeb, anh h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u1ea3i Ph\u00e1p Cho M\u1ed1i Quan H\u1ec7<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Khi c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00fd ch\u00ed thay \u0111\u1ed5i, vi\u1ec7c h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd mang l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c \u0111\u01a1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t kh\u00f4ng gian an to\u00e0n cho c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn chia s\u1ebb m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i hay ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ecbnh k\u1ef3 – c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n – \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng nhau \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, chia s\u1ebb c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u1ea3y sinh. Trong nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n n\u00e0y, s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb t\u00edch c\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 “Em c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y…” thay v\u00ec “Anh lu\u00f4n…” \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh t\u1ea1o ra th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ph\u00f2ng v\u1ec7 t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vi\u1ec7c thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng chung v\u1ec1 nhu c\u1ea7u trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. C\u1ea3 hai n\u00ean th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho \u0111i. T\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u00e1c ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 duy tr\u00ec.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00ean l\u1ecbch th\u1eddi gian ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u00ean nhau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. \u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 bu\u1ed5i h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 h\u00e0ng tu\u1ea7n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i, 15 ph\u00fat tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n m\u1ed7i t\u1ed1i tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ng\u1ee7, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u y\u00eau th\u00edch. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i cam k\u1ebft duy tr\u00ec nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch nghi\u00eam t\u00fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

X\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng nghi th\u1ee9c m\u1edbi trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng gi\u00fap t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c ch\u00e0o h\u1ecfi \u1ea5m \u00e1p v\u00e0o bu\u1ed5i s\u00e1ng, chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0o bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f9ng nhau l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch cho c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed7i t\u1ed1i ch\u1ee7 nh\u1eadt, Lan v\u00e0 Minh d\u00e0nh 30 ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 “Gi\u1edd c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta” – th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 tu\u1ea7n v\u1eeba qua v\u00e0 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch cho tu\u1ea7n t\u1edbi. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian thi\u00eang li\u00eang c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u1eaft l\u1eddi, ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t hay \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean tr\u1eeb khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau c\u1ea7u. \u0110i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eaft ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd t\u1eadp trung 100% v\u00e0o nhau. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, h\u1ecd h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec3u nhau s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n, k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i ch\u1eb7t ch\u1ebd h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t nh\u1ecf c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi N\u00e0o C\u1ea7n T\u00ecm S\u1ef1 H\u1ed7 Tr\u1ee3 Chuy\u00ean Nghi\u1ec7p<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p m\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n hay c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 t\u1eeb c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 can \u0111\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u v\u00e3n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"giai-phap-khi-bi-doi-phuong-vo-tam\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ea7n can thi\u1ec7p chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p bao g\u1ed3m tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m k\u00e9o d\u00e0i h\u01a1n hai tu\u1ea7n, c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u bia ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1c ch\u1ea5t k\u00edch th\u00edch kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Khi c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y, vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft m\u00e0 c\u00f2n c\u1ea5p b\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e3 th\u1eed \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1c ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p t\u1ef1 gi\u00fap v\u00e0 h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c trong h\u01a1n s\u00e1u th\u00e1ng m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3, \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u00fac c\u1ea7n can thi\u1ec7p t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n s\u00e2u xa nh\u01b0 ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u, c\u00e1c s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1 trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1c r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u1ec1n nh\u01b0 ADHD, r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n ph\u1ed5 t\u1ef1 k\u1ef7, tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng, hay r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch, th\u00ec s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 t\u1eeb chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thi\u1ebfu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd, c\u1ea7n ki\u1ec3m tra k\u1ef9 v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee9ng ch\u1ec9 h\u00e0nh ngh\u1ec1, chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n, v\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 trong vi\u1ec7c t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. T\u1ea1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam, c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p kh\u00e1c nhau nh\u01b0 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, ho\u1eb7c li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p gia \u0111\u00ecnh t\u00f9y theo t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1ec1 chi ph\u00ed, m\u1ee9c gi\u00e1 cho m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u1ea1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam th\u01b0\u1eddng dao \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb 500.000 \u0111\u1ebfn 1.500.000 VN\u0110 t\u00f9y theo kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a chuy\u00ean gia v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba \u0111i\u1ec3m. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3o hi\u1ec3m y t\u1ebf h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n, tuy nhi\u00ean c\u1ea7n t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u k\u1ef9 v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh s\u00e1ch c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quy tr\u00ecnh \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi c\u00e1c bu\u1ed5i \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, sau \u0111\u00f3 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch can thi\u1ec7p. Th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ebfn v\u00e0i th\u00e1ng, t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c t\u1eeb c\u00e1c b\u00ean li\u00ean quan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau m\u1ed9t n\u0103m c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 r\u00f5 r\u1ec7t, c\u1ea3 hai nh\u1eadn ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a anh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u. H\u1ecd quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m h\u01a1n 10 n\u0103m v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 attachment. “Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u00e1ng x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5. Vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7”, h\u1ecd chia s\u1ebb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u H\u1ecfi Th\u01b0\u1eddng G\u1eb7p V\u1ec1 V\u00f4 T\u00e2m<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0m Sao Bi\u1ebft M\u00ecnh C\u00f3 \u0110ang V\u00f4 T\u00e2m Kh\u00f4ng?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi sau m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt: “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 nh\u1edb sinh nh\u1eadt v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 h\u1ecfi th\u0103m v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe khi h\u1ecd n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n, hay ch\u1ec9 ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3t m\u00ecnh n\u00f3i?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1ecf trong ngo\u1ea1i h\u00ecnh hay t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u00ean h\u1ecd m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ph\u00e2n t\u00e2m b\u1edfi \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i hay c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng?”, “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a \u0111\u00e3 cam k\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi “kh\u00f4ng” cho h\u01a1n b\u1ed1n trong b\u1ea3y c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u00f3 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u1ea7n ch\u00fa \u00fd. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ban \u0111\u1ea7u, v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn h\u1ecfi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n v\u1edbi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi: “Anh\/em c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ee7 kh\u00f4ng? Em\/anh mu\u1ed1n m\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec?” v\u1edbi gi\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec7u ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 c\u1edfi m\u1edf, s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng l\u1eafng nghe ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3n b\u00e1c hay bi\u1ec7n h\u1ed9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quan s\u00e1t h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng. H\u00e3y ch\u00fa \u00fd xem b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean qu\u00ean c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i tin nh\u1eafn k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi, hay \u00edt li\u00ean l\u1ea1c ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00f4ng. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, quan s\u00e1t ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng – h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean t\u1ecf ra bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3, th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, ho\u1eb7c xa c\u00e1ch khi \u1edf b\u00ean b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng? Nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho b\u1ea1n manh m\u1ed1i v\u1ec1 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u00e0nh vi l\u00ean m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00f4 T\u00e2m C\u00f3 Th\u1ec3 Kh\u1eafc Ph\u1ee5c \u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c Kh\u00f4ng?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Tin t\u1ed1t l\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n khi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m v\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn. Theo c\u00e1c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd, kho\u1ea3ng 75-80% c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 khi c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng cam k\u1ebft n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c trong vi\u1ec7c thay \u0111\u1ed5i. Tuy nhi\u00ean, y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t v\u1eabn l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eeb ch\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 t\u00e2m – kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb \u00e9p bu\u1ed9c thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1eddi gian c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i r\u00f5 r\u1ec7t v\u00e0 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng trong h\u00e0nh vi th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 t\u1eeb ba \u0111\u1ebfn s\u00e1u th\u00e1ng, v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n v\u00e0 ki\u00ean tr\u00ec. Nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1ecf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y s\u1edbm h\u01a1n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh th\u00f3i quen m\u1edbi v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00f3 kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c bao g\u1ed3m v\u00f4 t\u00e2m do r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00ec c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u1edbi hi\u1ec7n tr\u1ea1ng. Trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ea7n c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 n\u00ean ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng – h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ki\u00ean tr\u00ec v\u00e0 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t ra nh\u1eefng ranh gi\u1edbi r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Theo nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd, 78% c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u00f3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 sau s\u00e1u th\u00e1ng \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt giao ti\u1ebfp t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh empathy \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7n. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n ti\u00ean quy\u1ebft l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec \u00e1p l\u1ef1c hay s\u1ef1 \u00e9p bu\u1ed9c t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi N\u00e0o N\u00ean K\u1ebft Th\u00fac M\u1ed1i Quan H\u1ec7 V\u1edbi Ng\u01b0\u1eddi V\u00f4 T\u00e2m?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u cho th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea7n k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 khi \u0111\u00e3 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c h\u01a1n s\u00e1u th\u00e1ng v\u1edbi c\u00e1c ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p kh\u00e1c nhau m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00edch c\u1ef1c n\u00e0o, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i d\u00f9 \u0111\u00e3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n trao \u0111\u1ed5i th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn, vi\u1ec7c ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai. Quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, c\u1ea7n hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd y\u00eau c\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i hy sinh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1ch k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u0103n minh v\u00e0 \u00edt g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 th\u00f4ng qua cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn, t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i hay c\u00f4ng k\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. T\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p thay v\u00ec li\u1ec7t k\u00ea nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u1ed3i ph\u1ee5c sau khi k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ed9c h\u1ea1i c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8. Vi\u1ec7c tham gia c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 t\u1eeb chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 x\u1eed l\u00fd c\u00e1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u1ea1i l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau 18 th\u00e1ng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u1ee9u v\u00e3n v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch t\u1eeb tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, th\u01b0 t\u1eeb, s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh hai b\u00ean, \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t \u0111i t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00f9ng nhau, khi Mai nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t \u0111i ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh – t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 g\u00e1i t\u1ef1 tin vui v\u1ebb th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n lo \u00e2u, s\u1ed1ng trong s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i v\u00e0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n – c\u00f4 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m bu\u00f4ng tay. “T\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4i ph\u00e1 h\u1ee7y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n”, c\u00f4 chia s\u1ebb. Quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u00e0y tuy \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn ban \u0111\u1ea7u, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap c\u00f4 l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u1eddi Khuy\u00ean Cho Nh\u1eefng Ai \u0110ang Tr\u1ea3i Qua T\u00ecnh Hu\u1ed1ng V\u00f4 T\u00e2m<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh t\u1eeb nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng, nh\u01b0ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ee7 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m v\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn. Th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n ghi nh\u1edb l\u00e0: Hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u2192 Giao ti\u1ebfp th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn \u2192 H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 \u2192 Ki\u00ean tr\u00ec v\u00e0 nh\u1eabn n\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, vi\u1ec7c th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t. \u0110\u1eebng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5 hay t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y – nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m do nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1ch quan. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e2u d\u00e0i v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch quan t\u00e2m nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y. H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac trong l\u00f2ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang ch\u1ecbu \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, h\u00e3y h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7t ra nh\u1eefng ranh gi\u1edbi r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh t\u1ef1 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c, duy tr\u00ec c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd qu\u00ean gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. B\u1ea1n x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a Minh v\u00e0 Linh l\u00e0 minh ch\u1ee9ng r\u00f5 n\u00e9t cho th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00edch c\u1ef1c l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. Sau 20 th\u00e1ng tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng trong vi\u1ec7c thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1ch giao ti\u1ebfp v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m l\u1eabn nhau, h\u1ecd gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u1ea5t trong nh\u00f3m b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n nh\u1ea5t nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e1ng gi\u00e1 nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 anh t\u1eebng l\u00e0m”, Minh chia s\u1ebb. “Tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y anh ngh\u0129 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee7, nh\u01b0ng gi\u1edd anh hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y. Khi anh thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1ch quan t\u00e2m em, kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n m\u00e0 anh c\u0169ng tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u1ee9ng minh r\u1eb1ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00edch c\u1ef1c l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 cam k\u1ebft, ki\u00ean tr\u00ec, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh, n\u01a1i h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m, hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, h\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng d\u00f9 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ea5u tranh v\u00ec t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng l\u00e0m. V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 mang l\u1ea1i cho b\u1ea1n nh\u1eefng g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn h\u1eefu \u00edch ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i, h\u00e3y chia s\u1ebb \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111ang c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng tin n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ea1i True Love Tr\u1ea1m Y\u00eau<\/a><\/strong>, \u0111\u1ed9i ng\u0169 chuy\u00ean gia c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh tin c\u1eady tr\u00ean h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 ho\u1eb7c li\u00ean h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 nhanh nh\u1ea5t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 t\u1eebng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang “v\u00f4 h\u00ecnh” trong ch\u00ednh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng? Khi nh\u1eefng chia s\u1ebb, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 tan bi\u1ebfn v\u00e0o h\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t ai th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe hay quan t\u00e2m? C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y th\u1eadt \u0111au l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf n\u00ean ho\u00e0i […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3801,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_gspb_post_css":"","_tocer_settings":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3795","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-true-love"],"blocksy_meta":[],"lang":"vi","translations":{"vi":3795},"pll_sync_post":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3795","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3795"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3795\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3807,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3795\/revisions\/3807"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3801"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3795"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3795"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/truelovetramyeu.vn\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3795"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}